I’m loving life as an Ulster Victory Scholar. Every day, I take part in an activity- in the classroom, community, and on the court- that I am passionate about. But it is important to note this incredible program does not come without its challenges.
For starters, basketball as an Ulster Elk has been frustrating. It is an Irish National League rule that only one American can play at a time, which means Shay and I play a maximum of 20/40 minutes. It’s tough to sit on the bench during a critical point in the game simply because of where you were born.There are also stark contrasts in the level of commitment and playing style compared to back home. Some days we have only had 3 or 4 players show up for practice, and more than once we have traveled to a game with 5 players. Maintaining and instilling a positive outlook and a strong work ethic is difficult but so important. I have faith it will pay off in the second half of the season.
Other challenges occur off the court. During an especially challenging community engagement event, the other scholars and I are pushed out of our comfort zone in order to provide the best possible mentorship. Trying to break through stereotypes and barriers that have been prevalent for generations is not easily achievable. Similarly, cultural differences between Northern Ireland and the U.S. can make it difficult to effectively communicate with coaches, teammates, and above all else, the objectively bad Northern Irish referees (will write a separate blog on that…)
Most of all, it’s really hard living so far away from the people (and dogs) you love. There are days where all I want to do is escape that uncomfortable feeling. How easy would it be bus down to Dublin, get on the next flight home, and take refuge in the comfort of friends and family.
On the hard days, it is important to take a step back and appreciate this experience for what it is. Yes, I miss my people back home. Yes, I am put in difficult situations that test my character. But I am confident that the challenges I have faced during my time in Belfast will only make me a better mentor, employee, friend, and father down the road. In a way, living 3,000 miles away takes the training wheels off. If something goes awry in the States, no matter where I am, the “Rio” parents would be on their way in a flash. Belfast is a little farther away… which has forced me to handle struggles independently and appreciate the tough days.
If I could go back in time, I wouldn’t hesitate in becoming a Victory Scholar again. I am playing the sport I love, helping inspire the next generation, receiving a master’s degree, developing life-long friendships, experiencing a new culture, and embracing the hardships that come along the way. There is no job or fellowship I could have in the United States that holds a candle to this program. Future Ulster Elks, I urge you to immerse yourself in the challenges just as much as you do the easy stuff. You’ll be glad you did.
